Most of us are familiar with thoughts that tell us we are not good enough.
These thoughts might be there at work: “Your work is not good”, “You’ll never be as good, why do you bother?”, “No one notices you”, “You are not doing enough”.
This inner critic might meet you when you look at the mirror: “You’re fat.” “Horrible hair, there’s no hope”. “You look bad and sloppy”.
It’s even there to critique your closest relationships. “He doesn’t really love you. No one could care about you.” “You’re not a good mother”, “Just don’t be vulnerable.”
There’s always this sense of never being enough. Of falling short at work, as a partner, and worse sometimes as a parent. This leads to feeling insecure with others. and we can feel guilty, resentful, or controlling.
Being kind to ourselves is one of the central components of mindfulness—but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy.
If we can calm our inner critic and cultivate self-acceptance, we can rewire our brain for deeper connections.
It all starts with the awareness to pay attention to your thoughts.
Reflect for a moment:
What’s your typical attitude towards yourself especially in those moments when you’re feeling anxious, angry, or off balance?
For many of us, our attitudes are far from friendly. We have deep habits of judging ourselves as lacking, deficient, inadequate, in pretty much everything.
You can start observing your thoughts towarrds yourself with this simple exercise in your everyday life:
✨ Notice when you are caught in thoughts of self-judgmet and come back to your senses, using your breath.
Sometimes our thoughts are relentless voices in our heads.
By observing them, we realize they are just thoughts…
We don’t have to believe in them.
Take good care of you,
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