16 Self-care strategies you can adapt to your life:
🥰 Sleep: sleep has a big effect on how you feel physically and emotionally.
🥰 Eat right: What you eat has an impact. Fill your body with nourishing food.
🥰 Move your body. Try to walk, bike, try yoga, join a dance class. Get out of your comfort zone and discover what resonates with you.
🥰 Learn to say No. Saying no to others can mean saying yes to yourself. Don’t feel obliged to say yes when someone asks for your time, especially if it’s going to drain your energy. You will start to have more time for the things you actually enjoy doing and you will feel empowered.
🥰 Get out: Nature is still the best medicine!
🥰 Take a self-care break: identify when you need a pause, get away from your normal schedule and take time to do something just for yourself.
🥰 Get organized: declutter your house, your working space, your closets. It will bring you space and freedom.
🥰 Start journaling: journaling is a powerful way to meet yourself.
🥰 Start a gratitude practice: start a gratitude journal, find a gratitude partner to change emails every week on what you are thankful for (email me!), or just say “thank you for another day” when you open your eyes in the morning.
🥰 Make a list of things that give you joy and repeat them. Joy raises our vibration.
🥰 Cook at home: cooking is an act of love.
🥰 Put your phone down. Read a book.
🥰 Accept total and full responsibility for your life. Be honest with yourself.
🥰 Control your habits: habits create your life.
🥰 Create space for silence. Silence allows you to connect with yourself. Start a meditation practice.
🥰 Make self-care a priority: schedule your self-care practice and guard that time.
You do have time for yourself today!
Now tell me, can you adapt any of these strategies to your life?
Today I’ll guide you through an open attention practice, and this is perfect for you to pause for a few minutes minutes and notice the present moment.
Open your awareness to whatever arises: thoughts, sensations, emotions, sounds, smells. And meet whatever comes with kindness.
Take good care of you,
PS.- I hope you enjoy this mindfulness meditation. Let me know how it made you feel, I will love to hear from you ❤
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Most of us are familiar with thoughts that tell us we are not good enough.
These thoughts might be there at work: “Your work is not good”, “You’ll never be as good, why do you bother?”, “No one notices you”, “You are not doing enough”.
This inner critic might meet you when you look at the mirror: “You’re fat.” “Horrible hair, there’s no hope”. “You look bad and sloppy”.
It’s even there to critique your closest relationships. “He doesn’t really love you. No one could care about you.” “You’re not a good mother”, “Just don’t be vulnerable.”
There’s always this sense of never being enough. Of falling short at work, as a partner, and worse sometimes as a parent. This leads to feeling insecure with others. and we can feel guilty, resentful, or controlling.
Being kind to ourselves is one of the central components of mindfulness—but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy.
If we can calm our inner critic and cultivate self-acceptance, we can rewire our brain for deeper connections.
It all starts with the awareness to pay attention to your thoughts.
Reflect for a moment:
What’s your typical attitude towards yourself especially in those moments when you’re feeling anxious, angry, or off balance?
For many of us, our attitudes are far from friendly. We have deep habits of judging ourselves as lacking, deficient, inadequate, in pretty much everything.
You can start observing your thoughts towarrds yourself with this simple exercise in your everyday life:
✨ Notice when you are caught in thoughts of self-judgmet and come back to your senses, using your breath.
Sometimes our thoughts are relentless voices in our heads.
By observing them, we realize they are just thoughts…
We don’t have to believe in them.
Take good care of you,
PS- If you want to discover how mindfulness can help you to overcome decades of self-judgment book here a free discovery session and let’s talk. And you can also listen here to a short guided meditation to help you start exploring your self-critic.
Mindfulness is an intentional practice. The same for meditation.
I know when you look at pictures of people meditating on social media, you see this blissful expression on their faces and a text underneath telling you all about the benefits.
I also do the same. And I get worried that I can mislead people in thinking this is a magical cure for stress and general unhappiness.
These images of happiness or bliss, only attainable by a few, are illusory. In fact, we feel the effects of a mindfulness practice if we do just that: practice.
Practice is part of learning anything new: piano, guitar, a new language, tennis. If you thought you could start out performing at a high level without practicing, you’d likely be disappointed. It takes people hours of intentional practice to reach a point of expertise and high performance. Like the skills listed above, the capacity to be mindful is something that you learn and grow into.
Don’t let the sitting and the silence fool you. These practices are participatory, not passive.
Those interested in mindfulness will often tell me that they want to get into the habit of practicing daily.
For example, when you download a meditation app. The app will remind you when to meditate, but when the reminder pops up on your phone, you will guiltily ignore it. Now, it’s a source of frustration, just one more thing that you fail to accomplish each day. Not quite what you were hoping for.
Other people, as they begin practicing mindfulness, will say things like, “I think I’m doing something wrong.” They don’t feel anything special.
I try to assure them that there is no “right” experience. Whatever you experience is what you experience. That is the point.
Most mindfulness practices are simply about becoming aware and observing the thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations that arise within you, without being overtaken by them.
It’s perfectly normal to feel bored, anxious, or frustrated—you may be tapping into feelings that you experience unconsciously all the time. It may not be entirely pleasant. And it’s in moments like these that people new to these practices might find it too difficult to continue on a daily basis or stop altogether.
How to engage people in the practice of mindfulness always was an interest of mine. I’ve been putting together action plan strategies that have been shown to help people put personal commitments into practice.
Here are two of those strategies:
- One way to boost mindfulness practice is to develop a simple, strategic plan of where and when you will practice each day. This is most helpful for those deeply committed to developing a regular mindfulness practice. And that’s why I created a practical workshop “Find Your Time to Meditate”, where I show you in a simple and efficient way how to find YOUR time to practice. Because It is going to be different for everyone, and what works for me, might not work for you. I also teach you how to have fun, how to turn it into something joyful that you look forward to, rather than a chore.
- What is your WHY? This is probably one of the most important things to consider when you are developing anything you want to do consistently, especially when establishing a meditation practice. Your why is going to be unique to you, but connecting to this will help you show up, as this is the thing that will get you out of bed each day, that will help you move beyond the excuses and all the reasons that will come into your head not to (and there are always plenty of them), it will help you stay connected to your practice and get you on the chair. To help you with this you can listen to my guided meditation “Intention” here. This will help you to set or remember your motivation for meditation.
- Support and Guidance: I’ll be there during your journey, giving you the tools to develop your practice. Encouraging you to go deeper in your practice and to not ignore discomfort. Opening the door to deeper inquiry and insight. Celebrating the little vitories.
- Be Your Own Anchor Facebook Group: A free safe space where I share real life practice (the boring and not so pretty part), and where we get together once a month in an interactive Zoom group meeting for mindfulness and meditation, to share struggles and victories, and practice together.
Regardless of how you enter into these practices, it’s important to know that cultivating awareness and higher states of well-being follow from hard, intentional practice and don’t come easy.
This may not be what you want to hear, but by understanding this reality from the beginning and using smart practice strategies, you stand a better chance of sticking with the practice and experiencing the benefits that it can unlock along the way.
Take good care of you,